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Approach and Retreat

Last week and through yesterday, I posted one way you can live into your dreams. You start with your vision. You do a double-check to be sure it’s actually your vision and that you’re excited, passionate and committed to making it happen. You take action. You assess how that action supported your vision or maybe how it didn’t and what you learned from the experience. And, you celebrate. If you haven’t figured it out by now, the process is one of those “rinse-and-repeat” things. After the celebration, go back and start again by revisiting your vision. Confirm that it’s absolutely the way you want to go or make any necessary adjustments. Take action. Assess. Celebrate. Repeat.

My horses have taught me this helpful method and I practice it every day. It’s called approach and retreat. When my horse and I are learning a new task or we come in contact with something that’s out of the ordinary and scary for the horse, I pay attention. When the horse says, “STOP! I don’t want to go any closer!”, I’ve learned to back up or walk completely away. We’ll relax or do something that’s fun and easy, then head right back to the scary thing. Sometimes we can walk right up to it on the second try and other times we can only move one step closer before we have to retreat, regroup and try again.

I think the same is true with our dreams. Living successfully into our dreams is fun, exciting, and even scary. If we’re truly making our dreams a reality, we’re moving into unknown territory. We’re doing things we’ve never done. We’re meeting people we’ve never met. We’re going places we’ve never been. So, use approach and retreat. Recognize when you encounter that scary place. Retreat and re-charge by taking time to do something that’s fun and builds your self-confidence. Try again. And, when your dream does become reality, ENJOY! and dream a new dream.

TODAY’S TIP:  Do something to build your self-confidence today and then take action that will move you toward making your dream a reality.


Easter Celebrations!

EasterCandy2013resizeHope you had a fantastic Easter holiday and that you had a doubly-fantastic celebration, even if Easter is not a part of your spiritual tradition!  I was able to enjoy some delightful family time with my daughter, son-in-law and one month old grandson and take a break from technology.

If you followed the 5 steps to living your dreams that we started last week, you may have figured out this is the 5th step in our journey to making our dreams a reality.  Let’s do a final refresher of what we covered:
Dream Muscles — envision your dream
The Bliss-O-Meter — where’s your excitement level
Steppin’ Out — take action
An Inquisitive Eye — assessing the action you took

And the fifth step (DRUMROLL, PLEASE…..):  CELEBRATE!!!  If you follow my blog regularly, you may find that I talk about this often because I believe many of us fail to see the significance of celebration.  And, frankly, I think we just don’t celebrate often enough!   I wonder why that is.  Are we afraid of looking like we’re showing off?  Are we too busy to celebrate?  Do we think the accomplishment was not significant enough or the goal not big enough?  Do we fear ‘jinxing’ our success?  What keeps you from celebrating?  Please post your response below.

TODAY’S TIP:  C-E-L-E-B-R-A-T-E!  Acknowledge an action you’ve taken in the past couple of days toward making your dream a reality or toward living the life you truly want to live.  And….please share what you’ve done (your accomplishment and your celebration) by posting below.  Have a terrific Tuesday!


PineappleI struggled with the topic for today’s post and tip for success. Writing works like that for me.  Sometimes it’s a challenge to keep pace with the ideas flowing out of my brain and then there are those days when I peer into my memory bank and it seems like there’s absolutely nothing there.  So, I did a search on the internet for ideas about how to bust through writer’s block and I came across the suggestion that I write about pineapples or absolutely anything that comes to mind.  It did the trick!  The second I typed “Pineapples” in the title for this piece, my mind shifted from “I don’t know what to write about today” to “type as fast as you can because now you have a gazillion things you want to share!!”

How can this pineapple blog and pineapples help you live the life you truly want to live?
1.  Get help when you’re stuck in an “I don’t know…..”
2.  Change your point of focus.  If you’ve got an “I don’t know….” going on, pick an object, any object and ask yourself — “how does this relate (or not) to where I’m stuck and what I might do differently?”
3.  Take action. Notice when the situation becomes painful or uncomfortable, because that’s DEFINITELY motivation to make a change.  I thought about what would happen if I sat on a pineapple.
4.  If #3 didn’t work, try something else!  Have you ever cut open a pineapple you thought would be PERFECT and it wasn’t ripe?  YUK!  Time to go get another one.
5. Sweet success when that delicious, sugary treat makes your taste buds squeal with delight.  Also what happens when your actions yield the result that you are looking for.

TODAY’S TIP:  Enjoy a delightful piece of fresh fruit, figure out what “I don’t know…” is keeping you from living the life you truly want, and do something to move you over, under, around or through it.  Have a great day!


couchIt’s FRIDAY!!  Do you have exciting plans for the weekend or are you going to deepen that divot on your couch watching tv, pinning new stuff to your Pinterest board, reading the Facebook posts from friends, playing on-line games or surfing the web?

If you’ve got another boring weekend on your calendar, here’s a thought — get out of your couch-potato persona and check out Meet-Up.  It’s a great way to hook up with kindred spirits, meet new people, try out new activities and add some FUN to your life!  There are literally thousands of groups listed (even in your area!) and if you check out what’s happening this weekend, I think you’ll be surprised.  LOTS to choose from.  You can burn off calories with a group involved in a physical activity or hang out with folks who are more interested in conversation or trying out a new restaurant.  And, it’s FREE to sign-up.  (You may have to pay a fee to join a specific group or participate in a specific event.  Just pay attention to the information listed.)

So, get out there into the real world, make some face-to-face, live, human connections and spice up your life!

Have a great weekend!

TODAY’S TIP:  Get out into the real world and meet someone new.   Happy Friday!


Depressed?  Unfulfilled? Stuck in a job that sucks the life out of you? Frustrated with your business?  Unhappy in your relationships?  Sick of your life?

With all the buzz lately about Sheryl Sandberg’s book Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead, I felt compelled to ask the above questions.  As of today, I haven’t read the book , however, I’ve listened to Ms. Sandberg’s comments in a couple of interviews this week.  One thing I heard her say is that women have a tendency to get in their own way when it comes to leadership.  One thing I know is that whether or not we realize it, ALL of us are the LEADERS OF OUR OWN LIVES.  We are the presidents, CEO’s, decision makers, where the buck stops, the #1 head-honcho-top-of-the-food-chain-people-in-charge of every aspect of our lives.  So, how are ya doin’?  How would you rate your leadership in your life?  How satisfied are you with the results you’re getting?

If you’re loving every minute of your life and all your dreams are coming true, GOOD FOR YOU AND CONGRATULATIONS!

If, on the other hand, you’re less than happy with the state of affairs in your life, your business, your career, or your relationships, you have a couple of choices.  You can continue on with things as they are and hope something will happen so life gets better or, you can get in touch with me at  I’d love to help you Lean In to a more joyful and prosperous life.

It’s your decision.

TODAY’S TIP:  Take a look at one aspect of your life that you’d like to improve — your business, your career, your relationships, etc. — then contact me at so you can  “Lean In” to greater joy and prosperity!  Have a great day!



A Balancing Act

Where do you spend most of your day?  Do you worry? Do you dread what’s coming or regret what has past?  Are you afraid? Are you frustrated because life, your business or your dreams seem stagnant, or worse, they feel dead?  Or, do you spend the majority of your day living in love? Astounded at the wonder of your own deeds and life and the world around you? Amazed at the creativity of others and the brilliant creativity that bubbles up out of you?  Inspired by bold actions that you and others take?
Vintage Balance Scale
If you took an assessment today, would you lean more toward fear, dread, worry, and frustration or love, wonder, creativity and inspiration?

TODAY’S TIP:  Pay attention to where you spend your time today, in fear, dread, worry, and frustration or in love, wonder, creativity and inspiration.  Do your best to tip the scale toward living in love, wonder, creativity and inspiration.

Losing Your Mind….

Many thanks to my friend, Julie Dempster, Certified Equine Guided Educator, who shared this link to a great article, “Losing Your Mind and Finding Yourself” by Ed and Deb Shapiro.  It’s a great follow-up to my post yesterday about the work of that little voice in our heads and a reminder about how our minds can be both incredibly brilliant and unbelievably absurd.  Although we have the capacity for creative and progressive thought, how much of our day is spent musing the mundane, pondering trivial events, and mulling over past decisions and actions?  How efficient and disciplined are you in taking time daily to stem your internal chatter, clear your mind, and shift your thoughts to feelings, behaviors and actions that will bring you more joy and prosperity?

TODAY’S TIP:  Begin or continue a daily discipline of meditation so you can ‘lose your mind’, silence your ego, and be open to possibilities for prosperity, happiness, success and joy.

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